Happy Unrez Day to Me!

So it’s been a year to the day since I finally laid Dylan to rest. Time to send a friendly wave to my old friends inside and outside the snowglobe. It’s been great getting to know you, and I am really grateful that some of you have kept in touch through other channels.

Most of all though, I am grateful for being out of there. Here are a few of the things I’ve learned during the past 12 months:

  1. There is a life after account cancellation.
  2. RL is actually quite a cool game. Sure, it takes some practice, but it is virtually lag-free and has killer graphics. Plus, you get to touch things and people instead of just your mouse. And don’t get me started on smells and tastes!
  3. An Epiphone is not a Gibson, but it is infinitely better than the best prim guitar in SL (even if that has the name Gibson on its head).
  4. Your relationships with people get better and better when you actually spend time with them instead of sitting in front of your computer almost all day (and pining to get back there the rest of the day).
  5. RL work pays better than SL work.
  6. Trudeau makes great sailboats, but you’ll never feel any wind or spray on your face sailing Blake Sea. (Sure, you don’t get any borked sim crossings sailing the Baltic either, but hilarious as they were, I think I can live with that loss.)
  7. The beauty of avatars fades once you get out of SL. The longer you’re gone, the more you realise how run-off-the-mill they all were. Real people look way better than avatars.
  8. You can read about 60 times more books when you’re out of SL than when you’re immersed in it. And don’t get me started on how many good movies you can watch.
  9. There are people out there who love you.
  10. Clarence the angel was right: It does make a difference whether you’re actually present in your own life or not.

5 Responses to Happy Unrez Day to Me!

  1. msn0va says:

    Wow, thank you! I have been fighting with my SL addiction for a long time. You have hit the nail on the head for me in many, many ways. I will be re-reading these posts until I can completely stop SL. I am not there yet but I am working on it.

  2. Dylan says:

    msn0va, I’m routing for you! Don’t put it off too long.

  3. Yordie says:

    Hi Dylan… I came across your blog again this afternoon while checking my Google links.

    I did something crazy to break my SL addiction, I watched the entire Star Trek Voyager series, back to back episodes, day-in, day-out, for about two weeks. When I was finished, I took a walk down Cocoa Beach and planted my umbrella. I needed an umbrella because I hadn’t spent a lot of time in the Sun, so I needed to work on my tan slowly. I’m sure there are other ways to break the SL addiction, but that’s how I did it.

    I visit SL every once in awhile but I feel very awkward there. I’ve come to realize that when I became enthralled in SL I had great expectation and my imagination ran wild. In many ways, it was a second adolescence for me. I flirted and dated and did things I should have done in high school. heh. In the end, who wants to relieve high school. Nowadays, I roam free in a rather amazing real world, and on the occasionally empty night, I watch the movies I missed when I was living inside that fantasy world.

    I still think about SL. I wonder if there is some project I can become involved in that won’t lead to the same kind of life I had in past. But then I realize how quickly SL can become addictive, and so far I just let those ideas pass.

    Kind regards, Yordie

  4. Dylan says:

    Hi Yordie, thanks for your comment! It takes a while to get SL out of your system after you leave. I’m not sure how long really, and of course it will be different for different people. I just know I’ve been out for not quite 1.5 years now, and it’s been quite a long time since I’ve stopped ever thinking about SL without some external prompt. As for projects, I find there are more worthwile ones in RL than I could ever get involved in. So much to do and to experience!

  5. Jools Junkers says:

    Thank you for sharing, Dylan. I read your earlier blog posts while trying to kick the habit myself. Actually I’m still trying, but after so many years a new factor is kicking in: at some point it’s just enough. You grow out of it.

    Another thing that’s proving helpful is a blog entry by Nir Eyal, author of Hooked and specialist in creating addiction. But he also has hands-on experience with kicking bad habits, which he shares in this blogpost: http://tinyurl.com/mwqubuv

    (The original link is some 200 characters long, so I used tinyurl to make a shorter one.)

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